Unplugging for Personal Development: The Men In Real Life Challenge

A Wake-Up Call for Modern Men

What if the constant connectivity of our digital lives is making us less human? For men, especially, the digital world has become a tempting escape from monotony, dissatisfaction, or even unfulfilled aspirations. However, the cost of this escape is significant: disconnection from the real world, real relationships, and real accomplishments. This month, it’s time to take action.

The Men In Real Life Challenge is designed to help men reclaim their lives by prioritizing meaningful, face-to-face connections and real-world experiences over digital distractions. Inspired by a year-long experiment by Brent Dowlen of The Fallible Man Podcast, this challenge aims to revolutionize how men engage with the world around them.

Why Unplugging Matters

The pandemic normalized digital interactions, making the convenience of virtual connectivity a substitute for authentic relationships. But as Brent notes, “Real humans are meant to interact with the world and each other around them.” Our devices, while helpful, have become barriers to the deeper connections we crave.

Men, in particular, often turn to the digital realm as a coping mechanism. From social media to gaming, the allure of fake accomplishments and highlight reels keeps us trapped in a cycle of superficial engagement. It’s time to break free and rediscover the joys of living IRL (in real life).

The Men In Real Life Challenge: Eight Simple Steps

Brent has outlined eight practical steps to help men unplug and reconnect. These steps are not about abandoning technology altogether but about creating space for meaningful experiences. Here’s how you can join the challenge:

1. When Ever Possible Eat with Someone Else WITHOUT a Device or Screen
   Whenever possible, share meals with someone without distractions. No phones on the table—just conversation.  Breakfast, lunch, dinner, coffee or drinks. I encourage family meals around the table if possible, but this includes with co-workers, friends, buddies. No Phones on the table and no taking messages or calls at the table
2. Say Yes to Real-Life Interactions
   When invited to do something, choose the real-world activity over staying home or scrolling online.
3. Be a Doer, Not a Watcher
   Stop watching other people’s highlight reels. Instead, create your own memorable moments worth sharing. You are meant to be a participant in life, not a spectator.
4. Plan Two Weekly Real-Life Events
   These can be as simple as a coffee date or as adventurous as a hike. Aim for one family-focused and one friend-focused event.
5. Listen to Four Real Stories
   Each week, sit down with someone face-to-face and truly listen to their story. Practice active listening without interruptions.
6. Host a Get-Together
   Plan a small gathering with friends or family. It doesn’t have to be extravagant—a casual coffee meetup works.
7. Spend 30 Minutes in Fresh Air Daily
   Get outside, away from screens, and reconnect with nature. Fresh air and physical movement are transformative.
8. Limit Screen Time
   Whenever possible, choose analog over digital—read a book, engage in conversation, or simply enjoy quiet moments without a screen.

The Benefits of Unplugging

Over the past year, Brent has prioritized real-life interactions over digital engagement. The results? More meaningful relationships, memorable experiences, and a profound sense of fulfillment.

Whether it’s a weekly Bible study, game night with friends, or outdoor adventures with his daughters, these moments have become the highlight of his week. By stepping out of the digital world, you’ll rediscover what truly matters—connection, community, and purpose.

Join the Challenge

The Men In Real Life Challenge is your opportunity to reclaim your life. It’s not about perfection but about progress. Try it for 30 days, and see how unplugging can transform your perspective and relationships.

.Remember, this isn’t just about one month—it’s about building habits that will carry you into 2025 and beyond.